Creating a list of what I intend to achieve in the new year has become a ritual of mine since I began high school. Before I had the opportunity to create my list for 2018, I was reminded of the importance of looking back at the events of this year before becoming so quick to jump into a new one.
Last week I attended a Pillow Talk meeting with some of my sisters in Christ and unlike other meetings, we focused on 2017 and what has transpired throughout the year.
Our first task was to list ten things that happened to us this year; the good the bad and the unimportant. Although that seems like an easy task it was sooo hard for me. I could not think of ten things, and when I asked to just use what I came up with I was told that it wasn’t an option. This forced me to dig deeper than probably would have. After I came up with my ten items (ofc I was the last to finish lol) we broke into groups of twos and discussed why we chose those moments and then we named our year. Explaining the reasoning behind each point on my list really helped me to understand the impact of these small events, impacts that I didn’t even notice.
When I got to number ten on my list, I wrote down “God prevented me from getting into any car accidents,” this was one of my “unimportant” points. When it was time to explain the importance of this point to my partner I realized that it was so much more than an unimportant event. In 2016 I was a part of a fender bender and it was a pretty traumatic experience for me. I had only been driving on my own for a few months and I never expected to be in that predicament. Following this incident, I became a bit anxious where driving was concerned, and for a while, my focus was always on avoiding accidents. That fender bender had such an effect on me and my actions a year later; I didn’t even notice until I was forced to really reflect. Through reflection, I was able to soak in all the good things that happened throughout the year and plan for even more positive moments in 2018. I was also able to evaluate the negative moments and note how I would avoid making the same mistakes in the new year. Reflecting is a practice I plan to continue from now on. I urge you all to try this reflection activity with friends and tell me how it goes.
Create New Intentions
After reflecting on the year, I was able to really sit down, think, and pray about what I would like to accomplish in the new year. Creating new intentions for a new year is a MUST for me. It gives me an idea of what I am working towards and prevents me from feeling like a wandering soul. For me, the most important thing in creating new intentions is making sure that they are attainable. For example, I wouldn’t say something like, “I’m going to go to the gym and eat healthy every single day in 2018.” Why? Because I know that I would definitely fail lol. I like to set one big goal and create mini (monthly, weekly and daily) plans of how I intend to work towards that goal. Write your intentions down! And not in the notes on your phone but on paper lol. As T.D. Jakes says, “A goal remains a goal until you write it down.”
Planning is essential in everything I do. After all, “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” (Antoine de Saint- Exupéry). We often underrate the work and consistency that it takes to achieve our goals (I know I sure do, like all the time lol). Making a list of things you intend to do isn’t enough; you have to be intentional about creating a strategy that will lead you to success. All this to say, create a plan that works for you and take small steps that follow your plan daily.
For this part, I’ll just leave you with a bit of advice.
You are in charge, so do what works for you.
Start where you are with what you have.
A small step every day is all it takes.
Put your trust in God. Understand that regardless of all our foundation setting God is in control of how everything turns out.
Lastly, HAVE FUN! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Take your time and enjoy the journey.
I hope you all have an amazing 2018! And if nobody else is, know that I am rooting for you.